I've been thinking a lot lately about expanding our little family. Kind of an odd time huh? Especially since our little girl is only 4mos old. Honestly, we plan to wait until Emy is around three years old before thinking about having another baby. That gives hubby time to graduate from college and hopefully find a job with his new degree. So its not like I am planning to get pregnant anytime soon.
But I've been thinking a lot about what kind of birth experience I want next time. Shortly after having Emy, I posted my birth story. It was not at all what I had wanted but it is what it is and I can't go back and change it. At the end of the day, both of us were healthy and that was the most important thing. However, I plan to do everything in my power to help ensure that the circumstances will be in my favor when it is time to birth my next child.
Now I know that I must still be flexible in my plans for the birthing experience that I want but there is no reason why I can't try to turn things in my favor. I am currently searching for a midwife because I believe that a midwife will be more supportive of my desire to birth naturally. I have no doubt that my OB/GYN is a good doctor, she is just not what I need for the birth experience I am hoping for. Hubby and I have talked about home birth but he really wants to me have one more delivery in a hospital before we go that route. This means I will probably use the Nurse-Midwives at Vanderbilt for my next delivery (unless I can talk him into the home birth before then). I don't guess I blame him. I really am lucky to have such a supportive husband. I'm looking forward to finding the right midwife so that I can have an enjoyable birthing experience.
I believe every woman should have an enjoyable birthing experience, no matter what circumstances would make it an enjoyable experience. I realize that it is difficult to describe something that is supposed to be painful as enjoyable but that is what I am striving for when I deliver any future children we may have. I may not go along with what society considers the norm but I am very passionate about my desires to birth naturally in my home. I want very little interference in what I believe to be a normal, natural event.